Category Archives: self control

To Opine or Not to Opine

I do a lot of reviews for the places I patronize.  Many of them are with Trip Advisor and some are directly with the businesses.  I remember what Gramma used to tell me, “If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all.”   Well, I’ve always applied this line of thinking to my reviews.  When I am silent, then you know my opinion is not good!

I don’t care what anybody tells me about how bad or distasteful something is.  There has to be a redeeming quality hidden somewhere.  It may be a mystery.  If I was put in a room full of horse poop, rather than complain, I’d be the one needing a shovel.  Because I’d be sure there was a pony in there somewhere.

One key word that comes to mind is Observation.  This includes the entire experience.  Not just what we see, but what we feel, smell, anticipate, or an expectation.  Anything less is just fear of disappointment.

With an expectation of a pleasurable outcome, we observe and anticipate the positive. When I’m disappointed, I allow the folks in charge to do their best to help remedy the situation rather than trying to tell them what to do.

I was writing a review for a hotel in Cardiff, Wales and read a few of the recent reviews before adding mine.  I was surprised that someone had had the exacted same experience as we had, but with a much different attitude and outcome.

We checked in and got into our room to find that we were freezing and could not get the room temp adjusted to a comfortable level.  We realized that was partially due to our slow acclimation to the environment.  Upon calling the desk for help, we were supplied with a solution.  The porter brought us warm blankets (they were actually warm) and then offered to give us a different room.  We were so delighted with the blankets, (they must have heated them in a warmer unit or heated dryer) and having so much fun in the toasty comfort, we didn’t need or want a different room.

So whatever situation you find yourself involved, be the observer and look beyond your focal point.  There is always something good out there, or in there to be found.  It may be a mystery, but worth the effort to solve.

And yes I did share my warm, toasty blanket experience in the review.  May we always joyfully accept the blessings presented to us.child-and-warm-blanket


Yes, I Can Be Great

“I am prepared to control whatever personality awakes in me each day.  Today, I control my destiny”

These are the words of Og Mandino.

What if—-these were the words on the “chalk board” in every classroom?

Would it make a difference in the behavior of the students?  I think it would.

Reviving the practice of repetition of thought allows the application to be automatic.  Whether the individual is of maturity to understand the statement doesn’t matter.  Reading it and hearing it enough times the meaning comes through.  And with the meaning a pride in knowing we have self control.

Personal responsibility.  No excuses.

As human beings we are great because we have the consciousness to know what is moral, ethical, and decent.  If we question whether our thought or action is appropriate, we have already answered the question.

There is no try, only doing you best.  We are all endowed with unique talents waiting to emerge from within us.  We can be good or we can be great.  The choice is ours.