Week 23: The Law of Least Effort

I’m out visiting my dad again and he gave me his ticket for the Kristen Chenoweth concert with the OKC Philharmonic.  What a unexpected treat.  She is such a lovely person and quite a dynamic talent.  This was a coming home concert for her and she showed her appreciation and gratitude to her mentors, teachers, students, and the people of Oklahoma.  My favorite song was a tie between Breakfast at Tiffany’s and Little Sparrow.  Please, please look this up and check out her music.  She is a true all round performer.  “Music is my life, and is how I share love.”  I paraphrased this but she uses her music to share happiness and comfort.

I must give a shout out and much thanks to Devon Energy for funding the event and Sonic (her absolute favorite place) for their support.  Without gifts such as theirs concerts like this one would be fewer and father between.

This week I was traveling and couldn’t get on the webinar even by phone!  I eagerly awaited the post of the recording and was surprised again by the content.  Marvelous it was.

My husband frequents our local library so I had to pick up some extra reading.  My pick last week was Deepak Chopra’s The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success.  Well to my surprise I was more than prepare for the webinar.

The chapter that hit closes to home for me was the Law of Least Effort.  Sounds like something everyone would strive to reach doesn’t it.  It’s only three parts; acceptance, responsibility, and defenselessness (detachment).

  1. Accept this moment as it is, committing to it because it is as it should be.  “You accept things as they are, not as you wish they were in this moment”  D. Chopra
  2.  “Responsibility means not blaming anyone or anything for your situation, including yourself.”  D. Chopra
  3.  Once you practice defenselessness (detachment) you no longer need to defend your point of view.  If this is practiced, there can be no argument.  And you gain enormous amounts of energy that otherwise would have been wasted.

What if we could all do this consistently?

One quote from D Chopra’s friend that I really liked follows.

“The past is history, the future is a mystery, and this moment is a gift.  That is why this moment is called ‘the present’.”

Please relax and take the 9:39 to watch this Hero’s Journey.  You’ll hear his lovely song, FIREFLIES.  It’s special to me because my Precious Caleigh gave me the CD and said, “You’ll like this.”  And I did.

 

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Week 22A: Those Kids Today!

IMG_2493Isn’t that what we all say eventually?  What if all young people had the opportunity to become self directed in their thinking?

I’d have loved for my children to have had the opportunity in public schools to attend classes focussing on self directed thinking like the Master Keys.

When you see the #NothingLikeIt, you are only getting a small sense of what the Master Keys could do for you.

What ever you do, or say,  you have already prepared yourself to do or say that, whether you’ve realized it or not.  Our reactions are a choice for which we’ve prepped.  So shouldn’t we “prep” ourselves to make decisions and choices in the direction that we want to go,do or be?

The Master Keys give the answer to being the best we can be.  Many other scholars and teachers instruct the same path of reaching one’s true self.  Whether you prefer the language of The Sit, Meditation, Prayer, or just quiet/lone time, it is all the same idea.

We need time to shut out the extraneous noise and distractions and focus our thoughts/thinking on just being, accepting, forgiving, giving, loving and edifying our core beliefs.  So simple to say, but with practice easy to do.  We reach levels of realization at different paces, all in out own time.

The photo above was taken around 1941.  As you can see the pilot if giving the photographer the A-OK sign, with a big smile he’s living his dream.  Of course he wished the circumstances had been different.

What this photo cannot tell you is what steps this young man took to reach this position in life.  He grew up on a farm with lots of siblings.  Had a team of mules at around age eight.  He helped work the farm and then milked cows, selling the milk to earn money to buy a car.  This was unusual as only the “rich” kids had cars in high school.  He played football, but when the season ended he went out for basketball.  Well that didn’t work out.  The coach suggested he try track and field.  So instead of staying at school that last hour, he drove to the next town about 20 miles north where there was an airfield. He took flight instruction.

He completed his training, passed his flight checks, but had to wait until he was 16 to get his license.  Upon graduating at 17, he applied for and was accepted into the Army Air Corp flight training program.

I wonder what the adults thought of him during those youthful years.  He reminds me of my youthful years often, and accordingly I’ve still got “a lot of learnin'” to do.  At 92, he’s earned the right to comment,  “Those kids, today….

 

Week 22: Shhhhh, It’s Quiet Time

I had a wonderful experience this week.  I met up with a fellow MKMMAer.  We talked for over 3 hours.  It was outstanding and so very interesting to listen to her experiences in the program.  Our blogs only tell part of our stories.  What surprised me most is how very much alike we are.

Yes,  there are of course many differences,  but also many similarities.  I truly wish for everyone in the class, to have the opportunity to meet some of the others taking this journey.  Of course many of you will attend the retreat and it will be grand.

I also had an experience where I applied my knowledge of self control and forgiveness.

Yes, you might have guessed, it was on the tennis courts.  After the match my partner was still upset about a misunderstanding on the score.  We straightened it out immediately,  but for some reason my partner could not release the emotion she felt.

We talked after the match because she was still a little upset.  I shared how her apology could only be offered.  She could not make the other gal accept it, nor could she control the reaction of the other gal.  And that the apology was really for her, to release the negative emotions.

My partnered smiled and thanked me.  It seemed to help her put her emotions in perspective.

The challenge this week of spending time in quiet solitude and contemplation is proving to  be tough for me.  So wishing everyone great joy and realization.    Shhhhhh…..It’s quiet time.

 

Week 21: Finding and Being Happy

When you are a young, before influences invade the psyche, you know exactly what you want to do and be.

Now of course we all know that this changes, might I say, often enthusiastically, as we see, learn, and experience new things.

But why do so many folks just let go of their dreams, placing them on the shelf?   Often forgetting where they are and what they were.

New opportunities come along luring us in different directions.  Sometimes good and sometimes not so good.

Having done many things and having had three totally, different professions,  I still am looking for “me”.

Where is that carefree, fun loving, mischievous person I once was?  Bowing to job expectations and others opinions, sometimes I don’t know who I have become.

Don’t get me wrong–I’m still me and I like myself.  My mom would say I just grew up.  But like Peter Pan,  I wish in some ways I didn’t have to do so.

I’ve learned over the years that if I keep “banging my head against the wall” in an attempt to accomplish something, perhaps I need to change directions.  Duh?!

Not every thought or idea is what we need to attempt.  We should dream big, but realize that the dream may need adjusting and refining from time to time.  And that’s OK.

By releasing our pride and letting go of preconceived notions, things will miraculously fall into place.  Patience is a big part of it too.  I have to remind myself that the journey is “by” the compass, not “on” the clock.

The Master Key Master Mind Alliance has brought about an awareness within me.  I am so grateful for the big,    no,    massive   push I have been given.  I feel as if my true self has been a mere painting in progress all these years.  Definitely an oil painting.  Slow to dry, easily smudged, and so graciously painted over and repaired as needed.

My daughter made an observation  about me that I never realized.  The evidence goes back for years.  It caught me totally off guard.  I never would have recognized this in me and I surely wouldn’t have chosen England as a trip destination if my son wasn’t living there.

Yes, she called me an Anglophile.  Then she so politely informed me, “Mom you are,  you love all things English!”

My time in England was exhilarating.  Still the memories are tender and fresh.

Finding comes from within.  Permit yourself to Be what you find.  Then your journey to find your true self will lead you to your successful destination.

Happiness is all along the way.  As Gramma used to say, “Keep your eyes peeled.   Or you might miss something!”

You can be what you will to be, and that includes HAPPY.

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FIND IT

BE IT

SHARE IT

THEN GIVE IT AWAY.

Week 20: The Happy Tool Box

With snow on the ground outside, I settled in for the weekly webinar next to a warm fire in the fireplace.  I was very comfortable enjoying not only the created environment, but especially the thoughts and guidance that the MKMMA team dished out.

I did feel a little guilty enjoying that time.  But I ask myself, WHY?

Comfort is an interesting concept.  We don’t have to experience things ourselves to be able to feel comfortable or for that fact, uncomfortable.

I learned about Mirror Neurons this week.  These neurons fire whether we see “it” or actually “do it”.  And they can tie us to other’s feelings.

Now I understood why I couldn’t watch a boxing match comfortably.  Even though I understand the sport and scoring, I always had a strong emotional response to the punches.  My son tried wrestling at a young age–we have a great program here for the youth–I could barely watch.  I felt, what I was seeing.

I’ve learned to be grateful for more than just the obvious, by changing my perspective.  If something negative occurs, I can be grateful (as Mark J suggested) for the seed of greater opportunity that manifests.

But what about:  Anger, Fear, Guilt, Hurt Feelings, Unworthiness

Can we turn these uncomfortable emotions into tools?  This is what I came up with during a sit.  I have already had to apply a few, and it’s always preceded with a deep cleansing breath.

Here’s a matching game.  Take the Uncomfortable emotion and Match to the new Comfort Tool

A.  Fear         B.  Anger      C.   Guilt      D.  Hurt Feelings     E.  Unworthiness

______  self admiration, acceptance,love, and encouragement

______  humble wisdom, graciousness, and kindness

______  tenacious determination

______  compassionate understanding

______  loving unconditional forgiveness

 

What you come up with may be different, and that’s OK.  And for goodness sakes DO NOT get out a red pencil and score yourself!!!    E,C,A,B,D

It’s our choice to decide what tools we use in life.  I choose the one’s in the Happy Tool Box.

Take the Journey and Go90Grow

For many who read this blog you might have the understanding that everyone involved in the Master Key course is achieving, accomplishing and gaining the same results.  Well then,  I encourage that you read the blogs of other Master Key participants.  You will find out that this is a self directed journey, lovingly referred to as the Hero’s Journey.  Even though we are doing the same readings, exercises and assignments the journey is taking each of us on our own personal adventure of observation, awareness and application.

 

Where the Master Keys takes on a discovery of Self Directed thinking there is another course launching that is a discovery in personal interaction, directed toward those who want to improve their “people skills” in marketing.  It’s amazing.

It’s Go90Grow.

There are 3 free skill videos—yes, that’s right, free.  Just click on this link

http://goo.gl/Idwv95

and you’ll be there.  Be sure and give your best email.

*****warning  *Will Robinson*  warning****

The class fills fast.

I highly recommend both of these courses.  Take a peek, it’s free.

Week 19: Getting It Down

I shopped the bargain table and picked up a small notebook this week.  The Paris motif is nice-I would have preferred something a little more English, but it holds my notes.  I found a good buy on a fountain pen, pencil set and decided to write out my readings, affirmations, and ideas in it.  It fits in my pocket book easily.  I enjoyed penning all the sayings and plan on adding lists from my index cards.  There is a purpose for this.note book

My Dad’s memoirs are a priority to me as he’s entered his 10th decade of life.  This along with Scroll V has really made an impact on me.  I want my little book entitled, “Live Your Life” (it came that way) to be found, discovered, snooped in and just basically read by those close to me.  I want them to see the words written (we know if it’s written it’s true) about how I feel about them, life, existence, gratitudes, loves, dreams, hopes and joys.  You get the idea.  If this is my last day,  I will have left some of my self-directed thoughts.

On that note,  I bumped my tablet off a lower shelf, it hits the heat register making a loud thump.  As I’m on the floor trying to retrieve it, my daughter rushes into the room in a slight panic.  She’s startled to find me on the floor (at first she couldn’t see me at all).  “Are you alright”? she inquires alarmingly.  “Yea, Yea, I’m not dead yet and it may be a while”   I replied.  You see, I had decided to pick up everything else that I’d dropped in the last few days while I was down there.  Doesn’t everyone do that?  “Use your head, save your Knees!!”  We had a good laugh.

Cudos to the Crew, Divas, Dudes, and Dudettes (hope I didn’t leave anyone out) running the show there in Kauai and around the world.  I have studied some of this material here, there and yonder, but the way this material is compiled is a fuse.  A fuse that has more and more powder added each week until….

KABAM.

You’re hit all at once with the realization of what you’ve known all along.

I wake up grateful for the new day and another opportunity to use my uniqueness, sharing kindness and love with other people.  Knowing I am intuitively and harmoniously one with the universe.